The Game of Emotions: When Excitement, Frustration and Hope Drive Your Decisions
The Game of Emotions: When Excitement, Frustration and Hope Drive Your Decisions
When you play – whether it’s a friendly game of rugby, a night at the casino, or a quick flutter on the horses – logic isn’t the only thing guiding your choices. Emotions like excitement, frustration and hope play a much bigger role than most of us care to admit. They can push you to take risks you’d normally avoid or tempt you to chase losses in the hope of turning things around. But why do we react this way, and how can you become more aware of the emotional forces shaping your decisions?
The Pull of Excitement
Excitement is one of the strongest motivators in any game. That rush you feel when the All Blacks are one try away from victory or when the roulette wheel slows down is your brain releasing dopamine – the chemical that rewards us for novelty, unpredictability and potential success.
This thrill can be both entertaining and addictive. Many Kiwis don’t play just to win money or bragging rights, but to feel that surge of adrenaline and intensity. The problem arises when excitement becomes the goal itself, and reason takes a back seat. That’s when impulses take over, and decisions become less rational.
Frustration – When Losses Take the Wheel
No one wins every time. But how we handle losses says a lot about our relationship with risk and reward. Frustration sets in when reality doesn’t match our expectations – when a “sure thing” goes wrong or when luck turns against us. In those moments, it’s easy to fall into the trap of “chasing losses”.
Psychologists call this loss aversion: we feel the pain of losing about twice as strongly as the pleasure of winning. So we instinctively try to erase that pain by playing on. But that’s often when we lose perspective. Frustration makes us act quickly, without thinking strategically – and that can lead to even bigger losses.
Learning to accept losses as a natural part of the game is key to staying in control. It’s not about suppressing your emotions, but recognising them before they start steering your actions.
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The Double Edge of Hope
Hope is what keeps us coming back. It’s the belief that the next game will be different, that our luck is about to change. Hope can be positive – it fuels motivation and optimism. But it can also become an illusion that distorts reality.
When hope turns into overconfidence, we start overestimating our abilities or underestimating risk. In gambling, this is known as the gambler’s fallacy – the belief that luck must “even out” after a losing streak. In truth, each spin, hand or match is independent of the last.
Keeping hope realistic means knowing the difference between probability and wishful thinking. It requires the courage to look at the numbers, not just the feeling.
When Emotions Take Over
Behavioural economics shows that humans rarely make decisions based purely on logic. We’re influenced by mood, past experiences and social context. In games, that might mean changing your strategy mid-session because you feel “on a roll” or “cursed”.
A classic example is tilt – a term from poker describing the moment a player loses emotional control after a bad beat and starts playing irrationally. Tilt isn’t just anger; it’s emotional imbalance. When you’re on tilt, you’re no longer playing strategically – you’re reacting to regain control.
Recognising when emotions are taking over is the first step toward playing more consciously. It can be as simple as taking a break when you feel frustrated or euphoric, or setting clear limits on time and money before you start.
Playing with Your Head – Not Just Your Heart
Understanding the role of emotions doesn’t mean you should eliminate them. Games are meant to be exciting, engaging and fun. But you can learn to balance your feelings so they don’t control you.
Here are a few simple tips:
- Make a plan before you play. Set a budget and a time limit – and stick to them, no matter how things go.
- Know your triggers. Notice when you’re most affected – after a loss, a win, or under pressure.
- Take breaks. A short pause can restore perspective and calm emotional reactions.
- Reflect afterwards. Ask yourself whether your decisions were based on strategy or emotion.
- Keep balance. Play for entertainment, not as a way to manage stress or finances.
When you understand your emotional patterns, you become not only a more mindful player but also more aware of how you make decisions in everyday life.
Emotions Never Disappear – But You Can Learn to Play With Them
Excitement, frustration and hope are inseparable from the nature of play. They make the experience vivid, but they can also lead you astray. The key isn’t to suppress them, but to understand them. When you learn to recognise how emotions influence your choices, you take back control – and play with both your head and your heart.
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